I’ve been in love with hip hop from 1979 to Wu Tang’s arrival; From 9-5 muthaf*cka to JayZ’s heyday, retirement and Jordanesque return. Throw in a few (just a few!) ignant tracks we won’t discuss in mixed company and I will shout that love from the mountaintops.
But in this game of love, there is always a little secret stashed away. My secret? Promise you won't judge me? (you say: I promise.) Okay. *sigh* My secret is...I’m a two-timer, a floozie, a cheat.
Beneath the sarcasm and what would definitely appear to be indifference, there is one other musical genre that adds the ooh to my ahh and the fuel to my plane – love songs.
Love songs ooze of the passion, the promise and the need that love inspires and sometimes requires. They are a witness to the natural urge to seek love, chase it or hold on to it. And if by chance love is taking leave, it is a testament to the pain of loss. When Smokey Robinson croons Ooh Baby Baby, I AM the intensity of him trying to right his wrongs. When Musiq coos So Beautiful, I AM that same beauty. When Prince is sopranoed out on Adore, I AM NOT EVEN comparable to imported Egyptian lace, but better. When MJ wails She’s Out of My Life, I AM crying.
Love songs make me feel. Not feel good or feel bad, just make me feel. Sure I enjoy some of the R&B lite songs on the radio like "U Da Best" but do I feel anything? Yes. I feel my head nodding up and down with the beat. I also feel like letting the explaination cease and letting you in on...
This week's THURSDAY TEN SPOT
My Favorite Love Songs of All Time
1. Cruisin' - Smokey Robinson
Baby let's cruise/Away from here/Don't be confused/The way is clear And if you want it/you've got it forever/This is not a one night stand/So let the music take your mind/Just release and you will find
You're gonna fly away/Glad you're going my way/I love it when we're cruising together
In my younger days (read: yesterday!), I naively thought he meant they were just spending quality time in the car...lol. But no! Cruisin' is a metaphor for moving to the next level both emotionally and physically, while Smokey McSmoothy sings in her ear. My original reason for loving this song is now also compounded by the subtlety I've come to love about songs from this era.
2. Try a Little Tenderness - Otis Redding
She may be weary/Young girls they do get weary/Wearing that same old shaggy dress/But when she gets weary/try a little tenderness
You know she's waiting/Just anticipating/The thing she'll never never never never never never possess. But while she's there waiting/try a little tenderness
The bible verse about love being gentle and kind springs to mind whenever I hear this song. Soft (and sincere) words to a woman (or man) can lessen the sting of some of the worst situations. They can also disarm the many superwomen and independent women who have just been through it and back. It's such a small thing that gets supremely overlooked. And as you can tell by the date on this song, it's a story older than time.
3. Adore - Prince
Until the end of time, I'll be there for you/You own my heart and mind/I truly adore you/If God one day struck me blind/Your beauty I'd still see/Love's too weak to define/Just what you mean to me
To be a fly on the wall at Lake Minnetonka! Everything about this song is intense, gripping and climactic. He wears his heart on his purply sleeve and quite frankly, I don't know who's better off here: Prince or his Lady Love. Unless his love is unrequited, it sounds like a win-win to me.
4. Secret Garden - Quincy Jones (feat. Barry White, James Ingram, El Debarge and Al B Sure!)
Tell me a Secret. And I don't want to know about just any secret...
Four grown men, one objective: The Capital O. (Don't front, you know that's always the objective!) But get this, the objective is not just for him...but for her too! That's LOVE! LOL! Seriously, this is what separates the men from the boys. They aim to make love to their respective women (properly, I might add), as opposed to just f*cking or hooking up as it's now called. Is there a difference? In my book, yes. But we'll discuss that on an FB status update, okay?
5. Stay - Jodeci
Tonight is yours/yours and mine/Let's try again to put our love on the line. Tonight/Let's start outr love again/Tonight/We can be more than just friends/The sun/is going down/So baby won't you stay/For a little while
We've all seen/starred in this movie: He said something dumb that made her cry. Now he's lonely, reminiscing, crying and wants her to stay. So he convinces her to come over and now that it's getting late (as planned) he's gonna razzle dazzle her and she's more than likely going to...stay? Oooh yeah! LOL. Love requires apologies.
6. I Gotta Be - Jagged Edge
I gotta be the one you touch/Baby, I gotta be the one you love/I gotta be the one you feel/I gotta be the one, to fill your life with sunshine.
The intensity of loving someone so much that you want HAVE GOT to be their every thing is absolutely mind blowing to me. This song feeds the hopeless romantic in me, yet I still think it's gotta be tiring.
7. Diamond in the Ruff - Jaheim
We started out like Bobby and Whitney/Justin and Britney/Then it all got ugly/If it weren't for the money/You said I start actin funny/But what's wrong with you honey?/Then the good turns to bad/Forgot what we had/I think about it every once in awhile
I shoulda came with a ring/Set a date for next may/But I thought that you'd wait/Now I hate that I took so long/Played around with her/Now she's gone
Initially this was slated for my Break Up post for next Thursday but it is a love song. And I love Jaheim's voice. This man found a woman who brought him joy, but he let money change him AND he took too long to let her know how much he loved her. Not to be? Eh. If you liked it then you shoulda put a...you know how it ends. Still it's such a gritty pretty ode to lost love and missed opportunity.
8. Lifetime - Maxwell
I was reborn/When I was broken/I wouldn't believe (I wouldn't believe)/Been through a storm/No use in hoping/That you would come rescue me/Somehow your love set me free
There was a time/when love was unchosen/Now I'm just open for more/For something better than I had before
I can let my life pass me by/Or I can get down and try/Work it on out this life time
Love Therapy spoon fed to the broken-hearted, the jaded, and those wounded by love. Here we have Maxwell encountering another chance at love when it seemed it would never ever be marked present again. Was he out looking for it? I don't think so. But when the opportunity (a better one) presented itself, he left the darkness behind and jumped on it.
9. For Real - Amel Larrieux
I can run/I can race for hours and hours/And don't stop/I can fall/I can fly us to the highest/mountaintops
I can breathe you/I can drink in your love/I can, I can live on your smile/I can trip but if I could fall into your arms/I could stay there my whole life
This song is almost the antithesis to Lifetime. It feels so pure and angelic that I wonder if she's ever had to ask him to pick up his socks or slammed the bedroom door in anger. I'm sure she has, but the trust and love in her voice and lyrics is so clearly evident that it always restores my faith in love.
10. He Loves Me (Lyzel in E Flat) - Jill Scott
You love me-especially-different-every time/You keep me-On my feet-happily-excited by/Your cologne/Your hand/Your smile/Your intelligence
You woo me/You caught me/You tease me/You please me/You school me/Give me some things to think about/Ignite me/you invite me/You co-write me/You love me/You like me/You incite me to chorus
Understand this. Lyzel New HoneyBun does not incite her to sing. He incites her to chorus. That's really powerful if you ask me. Personally, I think all women should be with someone that incites them to chorus. It may not sound as pretty as Jilly's version, but still I say, let's get it.
BONUS. Method Man and Mary J. Blige - All I Need
Like sweet morning dew/I took one look at you/And it was clear to see/You are my Destiny
Shorty I'm here for you anytime you need me/For real girl, it's me and your world/Believe me/ Nothing make a man feel better than a woman/Queen with a crown that be down for whatever
Back when I was nothing/You made a brother feel like he was something/That's why I'm with you to this day Boo/no frontin
I made it very clear in the beginning that I loved hip hop and then laid my case out regarding love songs. But if you thought for one minute I wouldn't find a hiphop love song, you misjudged me!
Even when things are bad, they're going to be in each other's corner. If that's not love, then I need someone to tell me what it is.
But my ALL TIME FAVORITE SONG of ALL TIME EVER EVER EVER? It doesn't even need a number.
Don't You Know That - Luther Vandross
I've got your love/you need to look no further/don't you know that/don't you know that/ after my love/you'll never need another/don't you know that/don't you know that
I don't make no promises that I cant keep/and I promised myself that i'd love you forever/how many times must i say that/for you to understand all that/yeah
Don't you know that i love you so
He doesn't promise her, he promises himself that he's going to love her forever. And he's going to keep on saying it until she understands that he's there for good. Real love is steadfast and consistent.
HONORABLE MENTION
Faith Evans - Soon As I Get Home There's so much love in working all day, standing on the stinky subway in stilettos and coming home to take care of your boo.
Anthony Hamilton - Since I Seent You Bad grammar aside, this is love at first sight. He says she's the flyest thing that life could ever bring - like fresh air he breathes and the blood he bleeds. That's pretty damn fly and life-threatening should she leave, no?! Oh my. Jesus be his oxygen mask!
I'm sorry. I know I was supposed to do ten, but in actuality this list initially had thirty songs on it! Besides, it's a recession. It's nice to give folks a little something extra from time to time, don't you agree? :o)
That's your dime and four pennies folks! Have a great day...filled with love!
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